The fact that many adolescent girls are showing remarkable strength, resiliency, and "hardiness" during the stressful time of adolescence needs to be explored.Instead of focusing on the storm and stress of adolescence, a new understanding of adolescent girls that affirms their strength and resilience needs to be developed.However, autistic individuals, if allowed to interact with other autistic individuals, develop complex friendships that are based on social rules that are unique to autistic relationships.
Since hitting puberty, my son has attempted everything to attract females – everything bar sauntering through town holding a placard saying, ‘Free Designer Shoes!Blessed with the photographic memory of a savant, he knows the result of every major tennis game ever played. I so wanted the world to welcome my boy, to respect and value his quirky qualities, but it was clearly never going to happen.But the one thing Julius, who is now 26, doesn’t know is how to read social situations, which is why he so often finds himself exiled into Social Siberia. Aged nine, he came home with a sign sticky-taped to his back saying: ‘Kick me, I’m a retard.’ You might as well have ripped my heart out of my chest and stamped on it.‘What does it mean when people call you a ’tard, Mum? Cold-shouldered, excluded, belittled, bullied, lost and lonely – this was to be his life.Other autistic individuals who do attempt to attain social acceptance may be unable to understand the rules of the majority and hence find themselves despised and rejected.The underlying cause of autistic social problems is not that autistic people are inherently antisocial. But this way is not the normal way, and thus they are perceived to be weird by many neurotypical people.